Roommate Always Has Guests? How to Set Boundaries

The Problem

Your home should feel like your home. When a flatmate's friends, partner, or family are constantly around, you start feeling like a guest in your own space. You can't relax on the sofa in pyjamas, the bathroom is always occupied, and the food you bought mysteriously disappears.

The tricky part is that your flatmate probably doesn't realise it's a problem. To them, having people over is normal social behaviour. You need to bridge that gap in perspective.

Setting Boundaries

Propose specific limits: 24 hours' notice for any guest, maximum 3 overnight stays per week, no guests after 11pm on weekdays without prior agreement, common areas are shared — guests shouldn't monopolise them, and guests contribute to shared supplies if they're staying multiple days.

Present it as a mutual agreement, not an ultimatum. 'I'd like us to agree on guest limits so we both feel comfortable' works better than 'Your friends are here too much'.

Document and Enforce

Add the guest policy to your flatmate agreement in HomeCo. If boundaries are repeatedly crossed, you have a written reference point. Track patterns over time — if it's a recurring issue, it may warrant a more serious conversation about compatibility.

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